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by Samantha De Bono

Research shows that sex registers 90% on the "scale of importance" between couples and one of the main causes for couples to argue. A sexless relationship can become vulnerable and although you will hear many couples say "sex isn't everything", it rapidly becomes a big issue when a couple aren't having any.

Happiness isn't all about sex, but lack of it causes added stress and in fact, Chinese research shows that a healthy sex life brings about immense physical and emotional benefits. It's true that good sex yields good health of mind and body, so it stands to reason that if your sex life is fulfilled, you have fewer concerns and feel much closer as a couple and happier and healthier as individuals.

Sex can serve as an escape from the pressures of daily life, so losing oneself in the experience immediately removes stresses of the day and the old excuse of "I have a headache" is no longer viable, because a study done by the New York Headache Center reports that the neurotransmitter serotonin is released during sex, creating an all-over feel-good sensation. In addition, an orgasm releases endorphins, which work to relieve pain Endorphins (opiate-like chemicals) which are associated with a happy, positive feeling and keep pain messages from reaching the brain. Unlike pain medications, which can take up to 15 minutes to work, these chemicals work instantly, shutting down a migraine before it has a chance to take hold.

So, not only is sex an essential part of a relationship, but it would appear it plays a key role in individual health and happiness too.